Love means different things to different people, some are for love, and some are not. Some people who claim to hate it still go out in search of it. Almost everyone talks about love; they sing about it, write about it, preach it and even fight for it. Some people describe love as a temporary butterfly feeling in your stomach when you see the person you are supposed to be in love with. This makes me wonder what happens when the butterfly feeling is no longer there.
The truth in a nutshell is this: too many people struggle with the idea called love, they get into relationships hoping to find love but are actually unsure as to what love actually is. Here are some salient truths about love
Love is patient – If someone actually loves you they will be patient with you. Ask all the lovers out there and they will tell you the amount of ‘crap’ they take from their loved ones, they may also tell you that they wouldn’t be able to take an ounce of it from someone that they are not crazy about. Note if you are dating someone who is always impatient, now that’s a definite RED FLAG.
Love is kind not vicious or malicious.
Love covers multitudes of sin – in order words it forgives. Beware of people who keep up dredging up the past. If you can’t move beyond the past hurts it means there can be no future; so call it quits and stop wasting precious time.
Love is fearless – The bible says perfect loves casts out all fear. If you are in a relationship and you always feel threatened by the other man or woman you need to address such issues as soon as possible before that which you fear comes upon you. In order words, you get to loose your man or woman.
Love seeks ways to give – love doesn’t seat around waiting to receive all the time- imagine a relationship or marriage with 2 lovers. Hmmmm now this leaves a lot to be desired. I guess the sky would be the starting point in terms of joy and happiness because they always put the other person first by seeking ways to please them.
Love protects – Love has always got your back. Love doesn’t bash you in your absence. Love will go over and beyond to protect the beloved even if it means praying for the beloved.
Love builds up and does not prey upon the weaknesses of the supposed beloved.
Love believes the best in the loved. It spurs you on to be the best person that you could possibly be.
If someone loves you, they should be interested in everything that concerns you. I am not saying that they must love your job but at least they should be interested enough to have an idea about what you do and why you do what you do. For those who already have kids, if someone loves you, they should also be able to love and be interested in your kids.
Love causes a lady to blossom and guys to whistle. I guess it brings some form of music in the air.
Having listed all the beautiful things about love, I know that it is possible to find love and one sure way to finding love is searching for someone who knows and loves God. 1john 4:8 says “He who does not love, does not know God for God is love”. I’ll go a step further to say that he or she who doesn’t know God isn’t capable of receiving the dividends of love even if it’s being handed over to them on a platter of gold.
Yes I agree with the songs, the novels, the magazines the movies and other instruments of love proclaiming that love is such a beautiful thing, it exists, it can be found and can be experienced but it has to be found in the right way. What do you think?
Copyright @ Jaelash July, 2012
Love endures, hopes all things, believes all things..wat if someone is in a relationship and having a bad day, and thinking well lemme endure… And yet believe the best for my pouse? Is there any period or time wen ‘this believing ‘ turns out to be folly? As in the partner hurts and apologises over and over?
True Love endures till the end. Love perseveres and bears all; it isn’t just for the good times only. Love conquers all! So trust me, just do your ‘loving’ bit, be patient and one day your spouse will turn around. To be able to achieve this you must have God as described in the bible I John 4:7-8.
Quick question, the couple in question are they married? If they aren’t and the partner exhibits such traits, if the traits are becoming unbearable my advice to you is call it quits. On the other hand if you are married, it’s not folly to continue believing that your spouse will change.
However the issue here is most people think they believe while most of the time they operate in a mixture of doubt, wishful thinking and weariness and these 3 make a really bad combination when seeking change.
Dictionary.com defines believe as the ability to have confidence in the truth
The 2 questions I have for you are:
1. What truth are you looking at?
2. What level of confidence do you have in the truth you are looking at?
The answers to these questions will determine the results you receive
Thanks storyteller. Thanks jaelash. The Patience advise does bring in a new perspective. God bless