No two marriages are the same each one has its own dynamics associated with it. What works for one person may not necessarily work for the next person.
However there are certain things that are constant in all marriages one of them being the two people involved and their ability to work together and live in harmony.
When we think about harmony I want us to picture a large instrumental ensemble like the orchestra which is made up of lots of instruments and musicians with every instrument having its own unique sound, the musicians know when to increase the crescendo, and when to decrease. Basically they all know what to do and they do a good Job.
One notable thing about the orchestra is that there is always someone who stands in front to lead the musicians. He is the conductor and according to Wikipedia, “The primary duties of the conductor are to unify performers, set the tempo, execute clear preparations and beats, and to listen critically and shape the sound of the ensemble.
Conductors act as guides to the orchestras and/or choirs they conduct. They choose the works to be performed and study their scores to which they may make certain adjustments, work out their interpretation, and relay their ideas to the performers”.
Let’s come back to the issue of marriage. Harmony in marriages cannot be over emphasized. A marriage is not a one man show where one person is the star of the show. It takes peace, harmony, unity, oneness in spirit soul and body and this can only happen when each person seeks instruction and direction from the conductor (GOD) because he is the author of the music called marriage. As a couple, not only should you see God as the author of marriage, you should also see him as your personal trainer because he knows how to fine tune your individual strengths and curb your excesses, he has a way of loosening tight muscles like pride and his brothers. Like the conductor of the orchestra, he knows the kind of sound he wants to hear and the type of emotions he wants to evoke.
There is nothing as annoying as when someone writes a good script for a movie or even writes good lyrics for a song with good beats and someone or a group of people do gross injustice to it by releasing a subpar performance. Now that is annoying.
All I am trying to say is this…. The Idea behind marriage is for 2 people to come together complement each other, work in one accord have good experiences that lasts a life time and BEYOND. I used the word beyond because you may not know it but there are people watching and learning.
Couples willing to get to a better place in their marriages should be willing to work with God individually then apply what they have learnt in their marriage. You may not get it right the first time but as the saying goes, practice makes perfect and for those whose spouses are not willing to put in any effort, you should not be discouraged you can give God something to work with
30 And I sought for a man among them that should make up the hedge, and stand in the gap before me for the land, that I should not destroy it: but I found none.
Make yourself available to him and he will work with you to cause a change.