Have you ever attended a wedding ceremony and heard things like: “awww… cute couple”, “lovely couple” etc. And someone out of the blues just says, “yeah right let’s see how long they are going to last….”
Have you ever heard weird phrases like marriage is not a bed of roses? Well, I’d never expected it to be, like everything else in the world today. The truth is, people are unhappy in their marriages and many have adopted either the endurance mentality or the quit mentality. We live in a society where many have mastered the art of playing the pretend game by making other people believe that their marriages are wonderful, perfect. They take nice pictures and have them posted on facebook while in reality, behind that perfect poise, elegance and perfect picture lays so much pain.
This post is written for those who are tired of the pretend game and desire change or for those who want to nip it in the bud before things get out of hand.
It’s funny but it’s really easy to keep on playing the blame game. You can either start doing something to effect a positive change in your relationship or keep on blaming your spouse.
It’s your choice.
It’s amazing to know that the lack of love or nagging isn’t necessarily the issue rather they are results of seeds that had been sown.
If you’re in doubt, why is it that when your spouse makes up her mind to stop nagging and start paying more attention to you, it never seems to last? Or you expect love from your spouse but you don’t receive it. Do not forget that a person that doesn’t have love (God) isn’t capable of dishing out what they lack?
The first step in mending broken fences in your marriage or relationship is introducing the Love (God) factor. The bible says love covers a multitude of sin (1 Peter 4:8). Hence with love on board, you will be able to look beyond the hurt and start taking baby or giant steps towards making things right.
Just like a pregnant woman would go to a gynecologist and not a brain surgeon, and you would go to a Ford dealer instead of a Toyota dealer to get replacement parts for your Ford car, you would need to let someone who understands you better fix the problem.
His name is Jesus and he is the porter and you’re the clay in his hands. Let him mould you and make you what you ought to be. Let him mend your marriage or broken relationships and if you are tired of the status quo (pretending) just let go and let God.
Jeremiah 18:1-7 like the clay is in the hands of the porter so are you in the hands of the mighty God. If he decides that there are character flaws or habits that need to be taking down in order to get optimum result. Then just let him take it off, let him take the lead and you would turn out just fine.
Having said that, for the singles reading this note, before you set sail into the marriage journey, it is expedient that you bring God onboard to be able to weather the storms you would face along the way or bear the consequences without complaining or blaming someone else. Ask or read about Jesus and his disciples and the storm they encountered while sailing and you will know that it pays to have God on board (Smiling face).
Copyright @ Jaelash April 2012